<![CDATA[L. Darsell Writes - Blog]]>Sat, 24 Jun 2023 08:13:45 -0700Weebly<![CDATA[When Sh*t Goes South:  Her Priority, His Option]]>Wed, 21 Aug 2019 07:52:56 GMThttp://www.ldarsell.com/blog/when-sht-goes-south-her-priority-his-optionAs I sit here in the early morning hours, I'm both nervous and excited about my book coming out.  This project has been one that has taken a long time to write; I'd start, stop (sometimes for long stretches of time), edit, re-edit, and more.  

My sister-friend, Dethra, finally said to me, you need to finish your book!  We sat down over dinner with our other sister, Melissa and charted out our plans for our own individual projects.  I had a plan to get the work done and release the book on my birthday.  Well, as fate would have it, that didn't happen but it's ok.  I think it was just a sign that I needed to hold off a little while longer.  After rounds of reviews and edits by my editor, India, we finally had a product.   

Now the time has come and When Sh*t Goes South:  Her Priority, His Option is finally ready for release.  I hope you join Elyce, Xavier and their cast of friends on a journey of lust, lies, love and forgiveness.  ]]><![CDATA[Livin' Your Life]]>Mon, 02 Feb 2015 21:19:42 GMThttp://www.ldarsell.com/blog/livin-your-lifeIs the time ever right for you to just sit back and do you?  We live in a world of "wants" - I want a job, I want a man, I want to be married, I want children, I want to be successful.  All of those things are good wants.  Heck, I wanted that too.  While I've been blessed to have those things in my younger years, now my want is to "Live My Life!"  What I realized is it's on me to make ME happy.  I love to dance so every week - I'm at a dance studio getting my dance on sometimes 3-4 classes a week.  I love to pole - I'm in and out of the pole studio (not as frequent as I'd like but as often as I can).  I love to kick it with friends -- had the best surprise girls trip to the cabin ever.....the bond is real and sealed forever.  I love to travel -- every chance I get, I go.  A trip to the beach is an annual must do.  I need to feel the sand between my toes even though the sun is not kind to my non-melanin skin.  All that to say....whatever you want to do that makes you happy, plan it, save for it and do it!!!!]]><![CDATA[Road Trip]]>Sun, 06 Oct 2013 22:03:43 GMThttp://www.ldarsell.com/blog/road-tripSometimes you need to pack up and get away. That's just what we did this weekend as we headed to Memphis. After we got over that six hour ride, the girls and I had an awesome time visiting historic sites, dining with family and friends and crashing as extras to an anniversary party (where every song had a line dance - no lie). Don't let life pass you by sitting around waiting for things to happen. Just get up and go!]]><![CDATA[Social (Network) Display of Affection (SDA)]]>Fri, 10 Aug 2012 17:45:11 GMThttp://www.ldarsell.com/blog/social-network-display-of-affection-sdaHave you ever checked in on FB from a location that's not where you live? Made a comment about going to dinner or spending quality time with that special someone? Posted a quality time photo?  Sure, many of us have.  Sometimes, with those things previously mentioned comes those who feel the need to talk about how, "You don't have to express your feelings.  If it means something, just do you!"  The bigger response from those doing the expressing is...."Who are you to tell me what to post? Why the hell do you care what's being put on my page? If you don't like it, don't read it!"  The even funnier thing is if they themselves don't post their SDA on FB but post somewhere else like Twitter or Instagram, doesn't that make them a HYPOCRITE?  It most certainly does.  What people say, do and/or post on their social networks is their business and only their business.  If you don't like it, you've got options ~ don't read it or unfriend them because it seems that maybe, just maybe you could be jealous and that is Not A Good Look!  IJS.  So to the SDA posters, I say, do you; it's your life, your page, your business.  To the complainers, if you don't have anything nice to say.....shut the hell up! ]]><![CDATA[She's In Love With That Pole.....]]>Sat, 04 Aug 2012 23:57:55 GMThttp://www.ldarsell.com/blog/shes-in-love-with-that-poleBootcamp ~ check; gym membership ~ check; belly dancing ~ check; kick boxing ~ check! I've done all of those things and some but the one exercise ~ YES EXERCISE ~ that I've been committed to for nearly two years is Pole Dancing.  You not only build up your upper body strength, you learn to really carry your weight (I'm a thick chick)!  So ladies, before you say you can't, I'm here to tell you that you definitely can.  I visit studios in various cities but I currently call SpinArella Pole Dance Fitness in Atlanta my home!  It's more than pole, it's dance, it's shake it's all around exercise (come visit sometime).  No Judgement, Just Dance!  
]]><![CDATA[Confidence!]]>Sat, 04 Aug 2012 23:20:06 GMThttp://www.ldarsell.com/blog/confidenceA funny thing happened in my vitiligo journey!  As you can see from the photo below. I once had brown skin.  Over the last 19 years, I went from the picture on the left to all of the photos stacked on the right.  Last month, I took a trip to the islands  and suffered pretty bad sunburn so I took a trip to the dermatologist.  After we talked about how she'd only seen a few patients who'd lost 90% of their color, I asked her about some little color marks on my arm.  She said sometimes their are pockets of pigment left in the skin.  A week later, I woke up and had color, of all places, around my eyes.  So could this be a case of having color, to no color to color again?  What in the heezy is going on!  Well, one thing about me, through it all, I will never let my outward appearance affect my inner spirit!  I am who I am and I love it!
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]]><![CDATA[Thankful]]>Tue, 29 Nov 2011 00:04:15 GMThttp://www.ldarsell.com/blog/thankfulThe holiday season has begun with the day of giving thanks!  I'm thankful for family, friends and love!  Happy holiday's ya'll! ]]><![CDATA[Sun and Sand!]]>Wed, 23 Nov 2011 16:35:35 GMThttp://www.ldarsell.com/blog/sun-and-sandIt's amazing what a get-a-way with friends can do for you!  When the workloads are heavy, the stress is high and you need a cocktail at the end of the day/week.....you probably need some "you" time!

I know I did!  That's why I went away with my friends for some island life fun!  I love the Caribbean - the water is beautiful and the sun is hot!  You're free to lay around and do nothing or pick up and do something....but you're not at home and that's what makes it great! 

So, when you're hit with the worries of everyday life, just take some "you" time and enjoy life where everything is alright!  No Problem, Mon!
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Chance meeting with Joe......

While working at the Association of Black Cardiologists, Inc., our CEO just randomly comes in one day with "Smokin" Joe Frazier.  He was a nice guy and it was indeed a pleasure to have met him. 
]]><![CDATA[On the Menu]]>Tue, 08 Nov 2011 04:53:33 GMThttp://www.ldarsell.com/blog/on-the-menuAppetizer, entree, dessert or night cap.....can you categorize your relationship the same way?  Of course!

The appetizer is the get to know you phase.  Maybe you'll be liked, maybe you wont. In new relationships, the appetizer includes flirting, conversations (phone/text) and sometimes hot sex (all the time, any time or anywhere).

Somewhere along the way, something happens and feelings fall into play.  The appetizer has rolled itself into an entree.  Things have intensified - you begin to really enjoy the company you've been keeping.  That company turns into multiple overnights, dinner out or cooking at each other's homes, celebrations of accomplishments, birthdays, holidays, taking trips alone or to meet the family.    When it's your favorite entree, it's constantly on your mind when you awake and fall asleep.  It's hugs, kisses and I love you.....frequently.

Sometimes you get so full on the entree, dessert becomes optional. Your meal has been fabulous - for a while now but lately you're feeling a little stuffed and your need to satisfy your taste buds with your after the meal dessert just isn't what it used to be.  Now you don't want overnight company all the time, you're not reachable by phone or your sleep - but it's early - and you don't call back.  The hugs and I love you's are less frequent but you're not cut loose just yet.  

There's always time for a night cap -- you know, when the sun goes down, the restaurants are closed and all that's left to get is a wet as*! 

So, how is your meal these days? ]]>